Dating a man who already has children from a previous relationship can be as rewarding as it can be difficult. It’s very important to keep in mind that you have to be aware of not only your partner’s feelings, but also the child’s.

Sometimes, it can be very hard to initially develop a relationship with a child that is not yours – and that’s ok. The important thing is to remember that you are dealing with more than one person when you choose to get involved with their parent. Here are a few tips to keep in mind for dating men with children.

Tip One – Don’t Move too Fast
While it’s very easy to want to step in and be part of the child’s life, remember to take it slow. If you jump into the relationship saying you want to be their parent-figure, you may not come across as sincere as you are intending. Generally, it’s not the best idea to meet the children too soon into the relationship. Make sure that both of you can see it progressing in a serious direction before you involve any children. Don’t rush into it, take the time to build a good relationship with the child first as well as your partner. The child will let you know when it’s time to take the step towards being more to them.

Tip Two – Don’t Fall Into the Trap of Jealousy
For some, it may be very difficult to accept that your partner will always have a connection to another person by means of their child together. Even people who welcome the idea of helping raise another person’s children occasionally have a jealous twinge or two. It’s perfectly natural to have feelings of jealously about this, however don’t let them get in the way of your relationship together. What was done in the past is just that, the past- Focus on building a future. And most importantly, don’t take your feelings of jealousy out on the child/children.

Tip Three – Be Supportive
Most single parents are apprehensive when it comes to beginning a new relationship with someone. Having a child thrown into the mix can make dating considerably more difficult because they have to worry about hurting the child as well if the relationship ends. Remember to be supportive of their fears and don’t push them too quickly. For some, it may not take a long time to build trust. However, others may take a lot longer than expected to open up.

Tip Four – Don’t Forget About Your Partner
It can be very easy to lose sight of the actual relationship between you and your partner while you are worrying about the children involved. Make sure that the two of you remember to set aside alone time that focuses around the bond the two of you share. The children are a very important aspect; however, maintaining a healthy and loving relationship is just as crucial as their needs. Always take the time to ensure both of you are on the same page with where the relationship is leading so you can avoid roadblocks before they become a problem.

Bear these tips in mind when dating men with children and hopefully your relationship will be off to a good start!

Tagged with:

Filed under: Dating Someone with Children

Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!

Possibly related posts