how (not) to behave on your first dateIf you are going on a first date it is only natural to feel a little bit nervous. Whether you’ve met that person through an online dating site, through work, or through a friend of a friend, you will probably be wondering what the other person will think of you, whether or not there will be a spark between you both and how well you’ll get on.

Here are a few tips on how to behave on a first date. Reading the following tips will give you one less thing to worry about while on a date so you can focus on the most important thing – relaxing and enjoying yourself.

Tip #1 – Be There on Time
Ok, it is really obvious, but still worth a mention as it’s just good manners. You don’t want to leave your date standing around like a spare part looking like they have been stood up, do you? Make sure you allow yourself plenty of time and if you are going to be more than a few minutes late call or send a text.

Tip #2 – Don’t Talk Too Much About Yourself
Not everyone likes to talk about themself, but if you are one of these people that do, try to make sure that you spend an equal amount of time listening to the other person. Sometimes people talk too much when they are nervous, so if this sounds like you, be aware of this and be sure to reign yourself in if you find yourself waffling!

Tip #3 – Don’t Give Too Much Away
Everyone likes a bit of mystery and intrigue in their lives. As tempting as it may be, don’t give everything away about yourself on a first date. Sure, if your date asks you questions, you’ll want to answer them, but you don’t need to go into all the tiny details. If you both like each other there will be plenty of time for that later.

Tip #4 – Steer Clear of Taboo Subjects
There are certain subjects that you probably don’t want to get into on the first date. For example you may not want to get into a detailed discussion on religion (unless of course you met on a religious dating website). You definitely want to stay away from talking about your ex and you shouldn’t really get into political discussions. I’m not saying that these subjects are not ok to discuss on dates in general, it’s just the first date that you want to avoid getting into anything to heavy.

Tip #5 – Be Yourself
You want your date to like you for being you, not because you are pretending to be someone that you or not. So try and act as natural as possible from the start. If you don’t you will most likely get found out after a few dates.

Tip #6 – Keep it Positive
Even if you are feeling a bit down on the day of your date, try to be as upbeat and positive as you can. Most people are turned off by negativity so stay away from moaning about your work, your friends or your health for at least the first few dates.

Tip #7 – Don’t Make Rude Jokes
There’s nothing wrong with rude jokes – I am quite a fan of them myself, but your date may not necessarily share your sense of humour. For that reason it is best to hold off the rude joke telling until you have a feel for their type of humour.

Tip #8 – Be Polite
If your date turns out to be the most boring person you’ve met in years, or you simply don’t fancy them, don’t just rush off at the earliest opportunity. At least stay with them for a couple of drinks and just put it down to dating paractise.

Tip #9 – Don’t Eat Too Much
If you are on a restaurant date, remember you are there to get to know your date, not to scoff as much food as you possibly can :)

Tip #10 – Have Fun!
This is probably the most important tip of all! Try to enjoy the date and have some fun. Even if you do feel nervous, the worst thing that can happen is that the two of you don’t get on and decide not to see each other again. Do your best to enjoy your date and even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll have had a good time.

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Have you had a first date disaster before? Or do you have a tip for making the first date run smoothly? If so, please leave a comment below.

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